I am not the person I want to be, but that’s ok.  I may never be that person I want to be because once I get to where I’m going, I always see something else.

Our weight loss journey
I wanted to lose weight and when I did lose the weight I wanted to run a half marathon.

I conquered the bridge and completed the half marathon in a personal best. So PROUD of myself right now.
After I ran a half marathon, I wanted to run a better half marathon.

Refueling at RnR Denver finish!
After I ran I better half marathon, I wanted to run lots of half marathons and travel the country.

I was supposed to run my first #marathon today but last night at 6:30 pm St. Jude canceled the marathon. This morning my husband and I got up to run for the kids! I ran my first 26.2 so does this make me a marathoner? #runchat #running #run

After I traveled the country to run half marathons, I decided I wanted to run a marathon.  After I ran my first “unofficial” marathon, I never wanted to run a marathon again.  BUT I was already signed up for another marathon a month later so I ran it anyway.

After I ran my first official marathon, I decided to run lots of other marathons.  Marathons then turned into ultramarathons and I’m eyeing an half ironman now.

I tell you this to let you know that it’s OK to be a work in progress as long as you’re working! I will always be chasing after something because that is just the person I am.  I am a goal oriented person.  It keeps me moving, it keeps me alive! It’s my reason for being a work in progress.

This weekend is coming up on another one of those work in progress moments for me.  I’ll be running a 50K (31 miles) in the Texas heat at midnight on Sunday!  When I signed up for this I was super excited for it.  My enthusiasm has weened a little bit about this race but I think that’s because I have removed myself from racing for a little bit.  I need to feel my racing spirit.  I have a couple other races this summer but I definitely needed to summer to regroup and relax. But I’ve been working towards this…so it’s a work in progress.

Are you a work in progress? What are you working towards?

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Proactive, that’s the word of the week.  Last night I posted about the perks of being proactive and I’m sure a lot of you missed that post.  Here’s your chance to go back and read it before you continue with this post.

Are you a proactive or reactive person? Do you let situations control your life? I like to think I’m a proactive person NOW but I spent many years being reactive.  That wasn’t a good place to be.  I didn’t realize this until later in life but that is when I decided to make a change.  A few years ago, it’s like a switch went off in my head and I realized I needed to change my way of thinking.  I needed to love myself so I could be truly happy.  After that, everything started to fall into place after I changed into a proactive attitude.

Today is all about being #proactive to #achieve your #goals. The link is on the profile for the blog. Check it out and get on with being #awesome! #iambft #fitfluential #fitbloggin #sweatpink #runchat #running #motivation #goalsetting

Here on my suggestions on how to become more proactive:

1.  Stop complaining and making excuses.  These things lower your morale and confidence and waste a lot of time.  Being proactive doesn’t always mean being the most optimistic person in the room but it is about being productive.  Complaining about a situation or person just takes up time and is a reactive behavior. A proactive person will make the best of every situation and complaining about how something is unfair, untrue, not right, etc. doesn’t exactly solve a problem or move you forward.  Making excuses for something means you aren’t moving forward because you’re making excuses for the things that didn’t get done or didn’t happen.

2. Write your goals down on paper.  This is definitely a case of seeing is believing.  It’s been said the most successful people in life write their goals down.  If you write down what you want to accomplish, it’s there in front of you.  You can see it.  You can touch it.  You can remember what the end result!  Also, writing down your goals makes them a little more permanent.  I suggest everyone write down your goals for the rest of the year and put them up in a place where you see them every day.

3. So you’ve written your goals down, now what? Make a plan and stick with the plan.  This allows you to look at all steps in achieving your goals AND plan for an obstacles that may block you along the way. You start with plan A, but you have Plan B, C, and D in place just in case something does happen that you can’t avoid.  The most important thing to remember is you want to take control of situations and not have the situations control your actions.  When you have a plan laid it, it’s easier to tackle the situations with a sound mind and head!

4. Don’t be afraid to ask questions to get the answers you need. Asking questions is a big part of being proactive because you’re taking charge and finding the information you need before someone gives it to you.  Don’t wait for someone to hand you the answers, go out and find them.  Get in contact with the people who you know can help you achieve your goals and really ask the right questions.  If you don’t get the answers you need, keep asking and don’t wait for someone to come to you.  Remember, that’s reactive behavior.  It may seem like you are being pushy or impatient but you’re not.  (Handle this with moderation and not in an overzealous type of way.)

5. Be persistent.  Don’t let one closed door shut you down.  When a door closes, open a window.  That is why it’s important to make a plan so you know how to continue to be proactive.  Look for every option in a situation and keep trying, something will work out but you’ll never know unless you keep trying!

You might be asking why I’m stuck on being proactive right now? Because it’s important and I really need to be a little more proactive about some things in my life.  I hate to keep coming back to this but I want to become a triathlete; I want to do a half Ironman.  I’m not accomplishing this goal because of many reasons and pro-activity is a big reason. I’m being reactive to situation by letting my pitfalls control me.  I’m letting fear dictate my moves here.

Being proactive will make your life better and applies to all avenues of life.  Work, family, weight loss, healthy living, working out…it’s something that can be applied in all facets of life.

I want everyone to achieve their goals so I’ve decided to share my goal planning worksheet with you.  No lie, I actually use this thing.  This past weekend, Willie spent an entire car ride going through the sheets with me because I made him fill these out.  It may seem like a nonsense, but I truly do think this is a useful tool. Print it out and start achieving your goals by being proactive.  Don’t forget you can always contact me for help or guidance when filling out the sheet!

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If there is something you want in life, you MUST go after it! It’s time to be proactive. Sometimes talk is cheap!  It’s time to stop talking and time to start doing something.

 “You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.”

I posted this quote on Facebook this morning and it got more likes than any post I’ve posted in a long time. There’s a reason for that…it’s the truth.


Setting goals is a GREAT thing. I never want to detour anyone from setting goals, but at what point do you start to put those goals into actions? Once you set a goal, it’s time to immediately start taking the steps to achieve that goal.

So what does being proactive mean? It means you’re taking the initiative to control a situation. It means you are the master of your destiny and taking responsibility of your life. Proactive people are affected by their actions which leads to less over reactions. A proactive person is choosing to make decisions to better themselves or a situation instead of letting the conditions dictate their lives.

It’s time to stop being reactionary and letting bad conditions dictate your life.

Remember no situation is impossible. You are defined not by your situation but how you deal with a situation.

Don’t wait until you’re backed into a corner to make a change or a decision because that is being reactive.  Being proactive is deciding to make the change now.

If you want to lose weight, don’t wait until you’re in a medical bind to do it.  Choose to take control of your destiny and your happiness now by developing a plan and STICKING to it. Take control of the situation before it takes control of you.  A proactive person doesn’t wait for someone to answer their questions, they seek the answers themselves.

But that goes for any situation.  If you’re not happy in life, you change that by being proactive.  If you want to run a marathon, be proactive, find a plan and start training.

Willie wanted to learn how to cook, so he did his research, joined an online cooking school and now he’s actually really great!

Most importantly, proactive people are always looking to the future and never in the past!  The past has already happened and there’s not you can do to change the past, BUT you can change the future by taking control.  It’s all about taking the first step in a forward direction to lead you down the proactive path.

Remember you can do anything you want to do in life if you believe and make a plan to achieve!  Don’t waste your time talking about what you want to do. In the words of Nike, “Just Do It!”

What is one thing you are going to be proactive in achieving by the end of the year?

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Life is about finding balance right?  You may only think I’m doing active things or working out all the time but there’s more to me than just that stuff.  BUT working out and BEING ACTIVE are FUN things for me.  Everyone once and a while I have to take a break and just enjoy life though.  Life is that thing that happens when I’m not working out.

This weekend I went to my best friend Shelby’s baby shower. I “hosted” it with my best friend Mandie, but I’m going to throw it all on her. I bought some decorations and put them up and made the invitations…she did everything else. I didn’t even get into to Mobile until an hour before the shower was supposed to start. Mandie did an amazing job!



There was lots of food but I couldn’t eat much of it. But I totally owned the fruit and veggie tray. I took ownership over it! It was MINE…and a little bit of Willie’s too!


Willie and I shared a piece of cake. It was REALLY good. Most of the time when you get these fancy cakes they don’t taste that good but this one was great. Or maybe I just haven’t had real sugar in a long time, lol!


We made a very short trip for this shower because I needed to get home yesterday to meal prep! I had a meal prepping fail but we’re going to eat it anyway.


So I may be a little hard on myself. I made my first from scratch enchilada sauce yesterday because the stuff in the can is loaded with sodium. I thought making it would be the easiest way to cut that out. My sauce was too thick and it was really dark. Maybe I’m just use to the stuff in the can though. We had enough left over for dinner last night and it wasn’t bad at all, but it was spicy!  But the black beans were on point.  I’ll definitely have to post the recipe for those this week.

I really wanted to do my best to make a healthier version of the enchilada because sometimes I do miss the mexican food.  It’s always loaded with cheese and sour cream and I think I came up with a healthy alternative for this.  There are some things I need to tweek before giving out the recipe for this though so check back later for that.

So what’s your favorite thing to do in your free time?  And what is your favorite mexican dish that you might want to see a healthy alternative for?

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I know most everyone is probably out watching fireworks right now but I didn’t want to not post today. Today we celebrate America!

The Flag

How did you spend your day? Did you wear red white and blue?

You wanna know how I spent my day?

13.23 miles today for #America. I saw this sign on the run and it was what I needed to read. I also did a shoe change from my #asicsnimbus to @altrazerodrop. I got new shoes for my birthday and I wanted to try them out. It was a cloudy morning but the hum
It started off with a 13.2 mile run. It was hard to get me out of the door this morning but I went when I didn’t want to go. I’ve been doing my long runs on Friday because it’s just easier. I can usually go in the evenings but today I went this morning. The weather was cloudy but it was really humid. But I did it!

#fruit #boat
And then I ate my weight in fruit from the watermelon boat! IT was so good. Ok, so maybe I didn’t eat my entire weight because I had to share with Jes. But we pounded that fruit all day long! Do calories count when you’re eating fruit? LOL!

I just wanted to tell everyone to enjoy the time and the fireworks! I hope everyone had a great day!

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Yesterday was my birthday and I had a great day. I’m not very fond of my birthday because it’s so close to 4th of July. People don’t really pay much attention to it. The birthday isn’t about getting the presents (even though it’s nice) but more about the people who are willing to celebrate it!

#green and #plaid, I had to wear my favorites on my #birthday! #whatimwearing

I started off the day wearing two favorites: green and plaid…and more plaid. Look at the shoes!

Celebrating my birthday with the best people ever! Thanks to my wonderful husband, my momma and my best friends Jes and Damien for making my birthday awesome. And yes, I are at Which Wich for my birthday!
Fortunately for me I was able to celebrate my birthday with some important people in my life and the cards they sent me! There were a few people that I didn’t get to spend it with too but I got the phone calls from them and that made me feel loved! That little dog on the card had to make it’s rounds.

FYI: I think Facebook has come into our lives and depersonalized a lot of things. The people who really care about you pick up the phone and call or text you. I was pleasantly surprised at the people who sent me lovely texts or personally made the call…and I was also surprised by the people who did not.


I did get some pretty cool gifts. I got a gift card to Amazon, a Tervis tumbler (for all that water drinking) and the most rocking travel cooler EVER! It’s got like little shelves in it and it’s big. Y’all know I’m serious about my travel coolers because I use them all the time! It was pretty awesome. There will be lots of healthy snacks and foods going in this sucker.


Going out to eat use to be the big thing for my birthday. Obviously things have changed a bit! Going out to eat is such an underwhelming experience that it doesn’t matter to me. I would rather eat at home to be honest, but it’s my birthday so I should probably eat outside of the house. I didn’t know where to go. It was an all day ordeal. In the end it came down to Chick-fil-a and Which Wich. I choose Which Wich AND I got a free salad! I’m easy to please!


The one thing I knew I wanted was froyo. No birthday cake for me. I want frozen yogurt. I was giddy. I loved it! I did a mix of cake batter, mango tango, blueberry tart, razamataz (that’s not really what it’s called but it taste like the smoothie from Jamba Juice), and cheese cake with cashews and peanuts on top!  I gotta get that protein in there. LOL!

Thank you for all the birthday wishes!  It was a good day.  I’m going to buy myself a present today, but I’m not sure what.

But now it’s time for a VERY important question: what is your favorite flavor of froyo?

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I’m one year older and wiser and I don’t mind!  My 20s weren’t that eventful and filled with lots of LOWS but my 30s are amazing!  For the first time I starting to live my life.  I’m starting to enjoy things and I’m definitely starting to open up.  I still have my moments of being down trodden, but I promise you those moments are FEW and far between.

So what do I want to tackle in my next year in life?


1. I want to eat more froyo!  Wait, I shouldn’t do that.  I probably have too much as it is. Notice there is no froyo in that cup because I inhale it immediately.


2. I want to run a 4:30 marathon!  I’m a consistent 4:58 marathoner but I’m searching for something more.  The thing is this is attainable but I’ve always died on the back half.  My training will focus more on being stronger on my long runs instead of just trying to complete those miles.  I will get this 4:30 goal, I PROMISE!

3. I want to become a triathlete!  While I may not be able to complete my first half ironman by my next birthday, I will have already signed up for one that I will do in 2015!  I can’t let fear get to me!

4. I want to feel less guilty about how I spend my time.  I carry it around a lot because Willie and I are doing what we want to do because we couldn’t before.  The world has opened up for us and we want to take advantage of every possibility and opportunity. I sometimes feel bad because that means I don’t necessarily have time to do the things I always did in the past.  I feel like I’m in a constant struggle with myself which manifests into guilt.


5. I want to run a BIG marathon.  So I know you’re thinking, you just ran the Great Wall of China! I know that was BIG but I’m searching for something more! Boston is really off the list because I won’t qualify for it until I’m 85.  Hopefully I’ll still be able to run.  Chicago Marathon, MCM, NYC Marathon, Big Sur Marathon…I’m looking at you.

6. I want to continue to be happy.  I know with a great husband at my side, we can and will conquer the world and that is the thing that makes me happiest!

7. Most importantly, I want to take my brand to the next level.  We Beat Fat has become a major part of my life.  It’s opened the door for many great things.  I’m working on building the brand.  On the same note, I’m helping Willie build his brand too! The journey is something we did together but our stories are different.  We balance each other out and we are two different building trying to build something together!  Look for big changes in the future!

5 miles at 5 on my birthday! #fitfluential #fitness #running #runchat #sweatpink
My first official birthday act was running this morning. Five miles at 5 am was just what I needed, except I wanted to run longer, but this stupid thing called work got in the way!

So now that it’s halfway through the year, how are you on reaching your goals set back in January? Can you do better or are you right on track?

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This past weekend I spent it in Savannah, GA at my first blog conference, FitBloggin.  I didn’t know what to expect when I arrived.  I was rooming with people I didn’t know, traveling to a city I knew nothing about and embarking on the complete unknown.  Attending this conference was out of my comfort zone.  The one thing I knew: I needed to do this.

I needed to get out and meet people who understand the world of blogging and social media.  I needed to make connections with people who understand the time, effort and sacrifice it takes to maintain a blog. I needed to be know people who were enthusiastic about health and wellness…and wouldn’t look at me funny for being that way.

Yes, the swag was amazing but it was much more than that. It was making friends, learning how to improve my blog and learning how to better myself.

I learned so much from this past weekend.

1. I learned that I am slowly but surely coming out of my shell.  I feel like I’m putting myself out there a little bit more.  Asking more questions and really getting to know people.


2. I learned that I’ve really come a long way.  Yes, I run marathons and that’s a great thing, but I’m all about improving.  During the early morning bootcamp session there were times I had to stop and just say to myself, “you’re doing this.” Because a couple of years ago I couldn’t have done this and even last year, I would have struggled a little bit.

3. I learned that everyone’s story is inspiring and/or motivational.  The people at this conference are truly amazing and are accomplishing great things everyday…big and small.  I am proud to be one of those people but most importantly I’m proud to know these people.  At Friday night’s Ignite, Alan’s story really hit close to home.  I identify with every part of his journey and I look forward to traveling the rest of the road with him.  He really pointed on how love and support really makes a difference.  It’s all about finding people who love you for you and will support you in the moments that you really don’t expect them to support.


4. I learned that people really do pay attention to the blog.  Within the first hour, Kari came up to me and told me Willie and I inspired her.  That warmed my heart.  The reason I blog is to make a difference in just one person’s life and in that moment I knew I had succeeded.  Thank you Kari!  You are strong and beautiful and you will achieve every goal you want to reach!

5. I learned so much about improving my blog.  I want to engage the people who read and I want you to get something out of this. I want to provide you with great content, motivation and inspiration.  I want to be here for everyone who needs help.  The sessions were so informative and are really going to help me push the blog to next level.

6. I learned that I need to just face the fear and just tri it!  I’ve been slacking on my goal of becoming a triathlete because I’m afraid. When I attended the tri chat, it got me energized.  I listened to everyone’s stories and I KNOW I can do it but I can’t let myself get in the way of my dreams of becoming an Ironman!



7. I made some friends that I know I will have for a long time to come.  Apparently, when you attend Fitbloggin you make some really great friends…and I think that happened for me.

8.  It’s okay to try new things and like them.  I stuck in a routine, I cycle/spin, run and do my weight workouts.  I’ve been trying to branch out of that the past four weeks and I really continued the trend here.  I did a cross fit session, PIYO+Insanity and a boot camp!  I really was pushing my fitness limits and I REALLY like it.


9. Balsamic and herb almonds owned me. Thanks for all the healthy snacks!

10. I know I’ll be back in 2015 in Denver to see old friends and meet new people!

Here are my other posts about Fitbloggin:

The Fitbloggin’ Update

Working, Business and ghost tours in Savannah

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This past weekend, I was at Fitbloggin in Savannah! There were lots of things for us to try while there. The biggest take away from the weekend was getting my numbers checked at the Walgreens Way to Well truck.

I got my numbers checked this morning on the #waytowelltour by @walgreens. Everyone needs to get their numbers checked. Cholesterol, blood sugar, blood pressure among other things. #fitbloggin #health #responsible

Everyone needs to get their numbers checked. I spoke about how Willie and I didn’t do thing right when we started our weight loss journey so don’t let that happen to you. YES, it’s scary getting checked. It may be a little daunting to actually get the test but getting the results is the REAL scary part.

The truth is though you need to know your numbers. It’s better to know than to not know. If you know, you can fix the problem. If you don’t know, then you’re possibly ignoring a problem that you may or may not have. You don’t know unless you ask. Sometimes the answer isn’t always what we want it to be, but that’s just a part of life. KNOWING MEANS THERE IS CHANCE FOR YOU TO MAKE A CHANGE.

No one wants to hear they have diabetes or high blood pressure, but when you know you can take care of your body. That is the most important thing. Take care of your body now because you only get one life!

The test took 15 minutes and then it was done. It was easy. I’m not saying you need to go to Walgreens to get these tests, but we all know there is a Walgreens on every corner. It’s convenient! Follow the link to find out all the health services Walgreens provides. I got my numbers checked and everything was below normal which makes me happy. Everything, except my BMI! That doesn’t make me happy. But I had a consultation with the pharmacists and she told me not to worry about it because my skeletal muscle was way above average!

This is the part of the conference that really hit home for me. As an African American this is an issue that is close to my heart because this is something the community tends to over look. I want people to become aware and take charge of their lives and move into the healthiest best you! Diabetes is a very serious problem in the community and most people don’t get checked out.

But this just isn’t an black problem, it’s an everyone problem.  Choose to live your life in the know and don’t hide because you’re afraid to check your numbers.  It will only help you!  I promise!  Don’t make the mistakes I made by not knowing.  I was luckily OK but I was lucky.  Don’t gamble with your life.

FYI: I was under no obligation to blog about this program.  These opinions are all my own.  This is just an issue that is close to my heart.


I also attended the Walgreens panel on making your fitness device work in your life. Walgreens has a great program. You can link your fitness device to your Walgreens Balance Rewards account and get points. Those points = money to buy stuff in the store. It’s a win win! It’s like you’re being paid to walk around.

I was actually trying to win a FitBit the entire conference but I didn’t. It seems like everyone I knew won one though.

So I had to buy my own. That was my first stop from the airport on the way home. I’m obsessed with this thing now. Today was my first official full day using it and I really wanted to hit my goal…and I did. I loved it. It’s just a good way to keep myself moving and drinking water. I also wanted the FitBit to know about my sleeping habits.

Have you had your numbers checked? Why or why not? Will you get your numbers checked soon?

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I’m riding in the car back home father a really long day. Fitbloggin in Savannah has come to a close and I’m back in Texas. I’m not going to go into much detail right now about the conference because there are some things I really want to share with all you readers. I learned a lot of helpful things that I hope will improve your reading experience, but that will be for another time.

The hearst.#ghosttour #savannah #fitbloggin

Last night, I went on a ghost in a hearst. Savannah is supposedly the most haunted city in America.

I ate a lot of great food. Last night we went to The Public which is a farm to table resturant. It was soo good. I had black fin shark with a corn salsa and a cantaloupe gazpacho.


The gazpacho was the best thing I’ve eaten EVER! Ok that might be a little dramatic but it’s making a top 10 list of the best things I’ve ever eaten. Light and refreshing.

Did #bootcamp this morning. Humid but fun! #fitbloggin

I did a lot of working out too. I did an early morning boot amp class on Friday.

My first #crossfit workout! #fitbloggin
Followed by my first crossfit class.

My morning run in #savannah! It's really a great way to get out and see a city. What city would you love to run in? #fitfluential #running #rinchat #runhappy #fitbloggin
Saturday morning I went on an early morning run through the haunted streets.

And then a PIYO+intensity workout.nPIYO is a fasted pace yoga/Pilates class set to top 40 music. I needed the stretch.


Thabks for being so cool ladies. Loves meeting you! @gotchocolatemilk #fitbloggin #teamchocolatemilk

Then at lunch I went running with my sponsor,, Team Chocolate Milk. They fed us lunch in the park along with some good ole lowfat chocolate milk. Savannah was humid but not that bad. I expected much worse. It was a nice break from our humid conditions.

Ice cream! #fitbloggin

I met a lot of great people and some great new friends. That is all for now, but I’ll be back blogging in full swing tomorrow!


I also finally got a chance to meet Monica from Run Eat Repeat. We always miss each other when were in the same place but this time it finally worked out! I’m glad I got to talk with her for a few minutes.

What did you do this weekend?

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